TAMMY NELSON – Reviving Desire in Low Sex & No Sex Couples: A 4-Step Erotic Recovery Plan
Help clients talk about what they desire and how they desire it—without shame or fear…
So they can deepen emotional intimacy and rediscover their sensual connection—even after betrayal or trauma
Our lives are all about relationships. Our relationship to ourselves, to each other, to our sexuality, and our spouses and intimate partners.
Let’s face it, if you’re working with people, you’re working with relationships. And not only do you need to talk to clients about their relationships, but also about their sexuality…
Because clients want to talk more about their sex life…
But they often feel like it’s not allowed. And when people can’t be who they fully are, they end up feeling ashamed, isolated and unfulfilled.
That’s why it’s important for us as therapists to get comfortable with sexuality and open that conversational door, so clients know it’s OK to be a whole, sexual being.
In this all-new studio course, I’ll share with you my simple 4-step plan for helping clients integrate all the parts of themselves so they can share their deep, intimate desires with each other.
Through in-session demonstrations with real-life clients, and an intimate studio setting, you’ll discover the same tools and strategies I’ve used to help thousands of clients overcome frustration and disconnection…
So they can be together not only sexually, but share their deepest psychological, emotional, and even their spiritual needs.
When you help them be in that space, you change everything.
What You’ll Discover in This Course
Introduction
- Tearing down the myth of “normal” sexuality
- How the “Crisis of Integrity” is hurting men and their intimate relationships
- Moving away from the performance model of sex and intimacy into a pleasure model
- Taking the pathology out of sexuality and focusing on pleasure disorders
Stage 1: Reducing Pleasure Denial
- Understanding the symptoms and getting to the root of pleasure denial
- How to release restrictions around women’s pleasure and the shaming of male desire
- Assessing whether the problem is with desire or arousal, which are two distinct elements of eroticism
- The importance of creating a regular “sex date” in every monogamy agreement
Stage 2: Reframing Pleasure Resistance
- Discover what purpose the resistance serves in the relationships (protection, control, etc.)
- How conflict avoidance can murder a couple’s erotic life—and how to use conflict and anger constructively
- Simple tools your clients can use to reestablish or deepen their emotional connection
- The #1 secret to transforming anyone’s sex life for the better (hint: It’s NOT compromise!)
Stage 3: Reimaging Pleasure Aversion
- Tips and tools for helping clients understand and transform the physical repulsion of pleasure aversion into desire
- How to address the three symptoms of a sexless marriage
- Sentence stems your clients can use to generate empathy and expand understanding
- How to start talking about a new, shared vision of your clients’ future
Stage 4: Recreating the Relationship
- Recognizing your own narrative biases so you can avoid power transference and offer the best treatment possible
- Helping couples create an explicit monogamy agreement to facilitate healing and set up future expectations of the relationship
- How to get better results by moving away from the Trauma Triangle of therapy toward using the Pleasure model
- Sharing fantasies is essential to erotic recovery. Help your clients share their fantasies with each other using the Erotic Curiosity Spectrum
Who Is This Course For?
This course is for Marriage & Family Therapists, for sure. But professionals working across many areas of mental health can benefit from this material, including: Psychologists, Physicians, Addiction Counselors, Counselors, Social Workers, Nurses and Other Behavioral Health Professionals
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