David Morin – Fast Friend Protocol
Build close connections faster with people you care about – without having to be vulnerable or turning into someone you’re not.
- Spend only 5 minutes a day to grow your friend-making skills with our to-the-point lessons
- Know exactly what to say to make the friendship move forward
- Know how to have engaging conversations with people, even if you usually have no clue what to talk about
- See how you can make close friends without having to be vulnerable. (This comes handy when you need time to figure out if you can trust someone.)
What You’ll Learn In Fast Friend Protocol
Part 1: How to Build Close Friendships
If your friendships stall or fizzle out, it’s probably because your conversations feel superficial or unengaging. Here, we take your surface-level friendships and make them interesting, exciting, and engaging – for the both of you.
Highlights include:
- Start deepening your friendships with people you meet
- How to leverage the friendship-time principle to make friends more efficiently
- How to know if you can trust someone to be close friends with them
- How to talk to people if you have had past negative experiences holding you back
- Use authenticity to build close friendships faster by being less “surface” and more you.
- Learn to avoid common “friend traps” like only interacting for a project or using humor too much to keep people at a distance
Part 2: What to Say to Build Deep Friendships Faster
Bypass small talk to build real friendships without having to be vulnerable, fake, or turning into someone you’re not.
Topics include:
- How to make a boring conversation interesting instead
- How to share the right things about yourself so you don’t need to be vulnerable
- Magic questions that deepen any conversation
- How much to share (so you don’t over-share or under-share)
- Using smart follow-up questions to rapidly make a friendship deeper
- What to talk about if you feel people aren’t interested in you or what you have to say
Part 3: Awkwardness Free Ways to Invite Your Friends to Hang Out
When you use the tools in chapter 1, meeting up one on one becomes more natural. In this chapter, we go deeper into transitioning from hanging out in groups or at work to one-on-one.
Topics include:
- Easy, natural ways to invite a friend to hang out
- Tips for planning fun activities you’ll both enjoy
- How to ask someone to meet up without risking rejection
- Managing anxiety before and during spending time with a friend
Part 4: Friendship Do’s and Don’ts
What unconscious bad habits kill your friendships? Do you accidentally send the wrong signals that keep people away?
Topics include:
- Safety behaviors: Are you sending the wrong signals?
- Burdening someone by being too personal
- Oversharing and undersharing
- Understanding how people prioritize their closest friendships
- Highlighting similarities to become closer friends
- Specific behaviors that strengthen friendships
Part 5: Navigating Friendship Challenges
A life long friendship can collapse after one unresolved conflict. The good news is that there are simple methods to keep a friendship going so that you don’t have to drift apart – even if you have differences.
Topics include:
- Managing different opinions or beliefs
- Identifying and setting boundaries in friendships
- Clarifying misunderstandings to preserve friendships
- Ideas for compromising to meet both people’s needs
- Discover how keeping up with each other’s lives is critical for friendships to deepen
About David Morin
Hi! I’m David, founder of SocialSelf.
When my middle school peers went to school discos, I was at home building model cars.
As I grew older I felt clueless about how to talk to people.
I had some friendships through school, but sometimes they were one-sided and other times toxic.
I developed a protective layer.
As an adult I spent lots of weekends alone and the thought of socializing made me anxious.
I felt like I bored people. I got stuck in small talk. I got ignored in groups.
And at the same time, I didn’t want to turn into one of those over-extroverted “party goes” that I associated with socializing.
Out of pure luck, I got to know really socially savvy people that I actually liked.
I studied what they did and realized that you don’t have to be loud and obnoxious or shallow to have a great social life.
You can build close friendships and even enjoy meeting new people – while being yourself more than ever!
When I started figuring this out, people began asking me for advice. And that’s how SocialSelf started, over 12 years ago!
It’s so cool to get out of bed every morning and read emails from people who thank us for their new, more fulfilling social lives. And if this program makes a big change in your life too, I‘d be so happy to hear from you!
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